How many of you would feel uncomfortable doing any of the following:
- Eating dinner at a nice restaurant with yourself
- Going to see a movie by yourself
- Shopping by yourself
- Seeing a Seattle Mariner’s Game (sorry, I’m a little biased) by yourself
If the thought of going anywhere in public alone frightens you, take a deep breath, and ask yourself this thought-provoking and philosophical question… Why?
I asked a few people this question and always got the same response back. Doing activities alone makes people feel uncomfortable because they don’t want others to think they don’t have any friends. I understand this because I felt the same. Once or twice I had gone to go to a movie by myself and I ran out of there as soon as it was over, for fear that someone would see me.
Things changed for me after I watched The Secret. One of the speakers, Lisa Nichols, spoke about how she didn’t look like any of the “beautiful” people while she was growing up. “It wasn’t until I stopped and fell in love with Lisa, full lips, round hips, mocha skin, afro, that the rest of the world began to fall in love with Lisa.”
If you can’t go out with yourself and enjoy your company, how will others? I spoke to a friend of mine, Ashley Holman, who told me that once or twice a month, she would go on a date with herself. She did everything from dinner a movie, to renting videos and drinking wine. Not only did this give her a chance to slow down and relax, but it also gave her the opportunity to fall in love with herself.
Take a few moments to complete an inventory of yourself. What qualities do you have that make you unique? At first, I struggled with this, I always looked at the differences as weakness instead of turning them into positives. If you ask me now who Rohit Rohila is, you will get a wonderful answer. Rohit Rohila has a big beautiful smile, he is short which makes him a great hugger, and he has deep brown caring eyes.
Take yourself out on a date with yourself tonight and fell in love